Essay : Money is not the only measure of success in life
For most people in our modern-capitalism world, money is the first thing, and sometimes the only thing that measures success in their life. Money can buy power. Money can buy fame. Money can buy time. Sometimes money can even buy a life. So money has become the first common goal for everybody. However, there is something else that can be the measurement of success in life.
One important thing that defines success in our lives is our careers. With different careers, we will have different goals and measurements of our success. If you are an athlete, your success can be measured by lots of things such as wining tournaments, breaking records, playing in the top league or competing in the Olympics. If you are a scientist, the success in your life will mostly depend on your researches. One line of formula that can prove your theory is true can be the great success in your life. If you are a writer, you will probably succeed if your book gets on the best-selling shelf in the bookstore or if your works get published in a magazine. If you are a musician, playing in the country’s orchestra or a number of your CDs that have been sold can be counted as the measurement of your success. So we can see that another measurement of success in your life besides money is how much you have succeeded in your career.
Success in human life is often measured by numbers. Therefore, everything that can be counted can be used as a measurement. Again, these measurements vary with each career. If you are an athlete maybe it is the number of tournaments or the number of matches you have won. But if you are a writer, it is probably the number of your books that have been sold out or if you are a musician it might be the number of your CDs. Sometimes it could be even a silly thing like the number of girlfriends you have. In fact, it is human nature that we always want to compare ourselves to others. In almost every career there is money involved, and maybe that is the reason why people always look at money as primary measurement of their success - they can easily compare it with the others.
The other measurement of success in our lives is awards. For the scientists one of the greatest accomplishments in their life is to win a Nobel Prize, for the writers there is the Pulitzer award, for actors and actresses there is an academy award, for musicians a Grammy’s and so on. These things are different from the other measurements in that it is judged by other people not ourselves.
Besides those measurements we can compare them with other people or let other people measure our success, sometimes just accomplishing our wishes or dreams can be measures of success in our lives. So it does not matter that you have won the world championships or just the tournament in your school, working in the biggest company in the country or just set up your small company. If it is your dream, you have already succeeded in your life.
The common goal in people’s life is to be peaceful and happy. Being the richest man in the world does not mean you are the happiest man in the world, although money can buy you happiness sometimes, but not always. So another measurement of success you are in your is how happy your life is. It might be having a warm family and children, having lots of friends or maybe just having someone who truly loves you.
In addition, as times change, the measurement of success in life also changes. For examples, wealth, thing that many people use to judge success in one’s life, is changing when time has passed. Thousands of years ago when humans were still a cavemen, it might have been how big you cave was. Hundreds of years ago it might have been how big your land was. Today it is how much money is in your bank account, so maybe in the future it might be something else.
In conclusion, the measurement of success in your live can be many things. It just depends on time, what goals you have and who is the one doing the judging Money is just the first common, one but it is not the only one.
Last year my good friend captured this beautiful candid moment with my then 4-month-old daughter Zoe. When I saw it for the first time, tears began streaming down my face. These weren't tears of sadness, rather tears of immense joy.
This picture captured me arriving at a place of inner peace, calm, and happiness that I had spent most of my life searching for.
You see, I had spent too many years living the life I thought was expected of me, rather than the life that was true to me. I had always looked up to my father and wanted to model his success as an entrepreneur. So I got my business degree, and by 25, I had built a million-dollar human resources company.
I exhausted myself striving for perfection--the perfect house, perfect family, perfect body. The money came in, and I filled my life with stuff--expensive stuff. But it was never enough. The newness always wore off and I soon needed something better to make me feel good. My penchant for new and better stuff left me feeling unfulfilled, and my bank account took an unhealthy hit as well.
What I really wanted was the same thing all of us want: happiness. How I went about finding it, however, delivered only temporary bursts of pleasure, not lasting joy.
The fact is, today we have more food, cars, and clothes, better health, double the income, bigger houses, and more conveniences than we had 50 years ago. Yet, according to the World Database of Happiness, we have not become any happier. In fact, once a person has enough income to live on, additional wealth has little impact on happiness.
I was successful in the eyes of the world, because I was an entrepreneur with a growing business, and had all the material wealth and status that came along with that. Yet despite my professional success, privately I was falling apart--depressed, hopeless, miserable, and hiding an eating disorder from my family and from the world.
I walked away from the financial stability of my business and embarked on a crusade of self-discovery, diving into self-development and seeking mentors to help me heal and grow. Eventually I found my true path: to be a leadership coach and speaker empowering women to think and play bigger in their personal and professional lives.
This did not happen overnight. It was a years-long process of discovering who I am at my core, what work I was put here to do, and what I want my legacy to be. Along the way, I learned why my quest for success had gone so wrong.
The measure of a successful life isn't your job title, the size of your house, or the beautiful things you can afford. True success is living the life that is authentic to who you are. It's living fully and fulfilling your true purpose on earth while embracing joy.
To find true happiness, you need to define success by what holds real meaning in your life -- relationships, making a difference, and living authentically. I can almost promise you that if you chase after the next best thing, you'll be disappointed. After the short-term thrill, you will be let down once the newness wears off.
So here are six ways you can define your own version of success:
1. Create your own standards. Quit judging yourself according to other people's definitions of success. Decide what is most important in your life -- perhaps it's happy relationships, a successful career, or health and fitness. Then for each one, find a way to measure your progress that is meaningful to you.
2. Choose the path of fulfillment. You can have all the money in the world, the finest house in the neighborhood, and the most impressive job title, but it won't mean a thing unless you are living the life you were meant to live. Find your calling in life. Listen to your heart. And aim for inner fulfillment, not external symbols of success.
3. Focus on doing one percent more. It's important to set goals, but once you know where you're heading, it's time to turn your focus to each step of the journey. If you commit yourself to doing and giving just a little bit more than you were willing to yesterday, you will bring yourself closer every day to your ultimate goal of success.
4. Set intrinsic verses ego goals. Decide what character muscles you want to build while in pursuit of your goals. Who do you want to become? What character muscles do you want to grow? By creating success measures that are intrinsically rooted, rather than ego based, will help you to create real change and sustain your motivation during challenging times.
5. Gift it forward. Knowing that you have done your part to make the world a better place can bring the greatest sense of fulfillment of all. When you measure your success, ask yourself: have I made a difference to someone's life? Do my efforts help to improve the world around me?
6. Develop resilience. No matter what your ultimate goal is or how you measure success, inevitably there will be roadblocks in your way. You will make mistakes, and things won't always go your way. The difference between success and failure is whether you learn from those mistakes and persevere in the face of setbacks -- or give up on your dream.
For me, authentic happiness has emerged from a combination of passion, confidence, optimism and the pursuit of a lifestyle that gives me what I've always wanted: to be fully present to my children as they grow up, to know that I am making a valuable difference in the lives of others, and to be grounded in who I am and what I stand for.
After all, isn't it our innate human desire to know that our life matters? Don't we all want to be assured that we are living lives of significance and will leave the world a little better than when we found it?
Decide on your own measures of success. Own them. And commit to living them today.
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